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Common Q & A
Do I really need therapy or coaching? I can usually handle my problems.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy and coaching is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking guidance. Therapy and coaching provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
Why do people go to therapy or coaching, and how do I know if it is right for me?
People have many different motivations. Some may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well. Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, addictions, relationship problems, spiritual conflicts and creative blocks. Therapy and coaching can help provide some much-needed encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods. Others may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about themselves or want to be more effective with their goals in life. In short, people seeking guidance are ready to meet the challenges in their lives and ready to make changes in their lives.
What is therapy and coaching like?
Because each person has different issues and goals, each experience will be different depending on the individual(s).
In general, you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous therapy or coaching session. Depending on your specific needs, guidance can be short-term, for a specific issue, or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development. Either way, it is most common to schedule regular sessions with your therapist or coach.
It is important to understand that you will get more results from your sessions if you actively participate in the process. The ultimate purpose of guidance is to help you bring what you learn in session back into your life. Therefore, beyond the work you do in therapy sessions, your therapist may suggest some things you can do outside of therapy to support your process - such as reading a pertinent book, journaling on specific topics, noting particular behaviors or taking action on your goals. People seeking therapy or coaching are ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives, and take responsibility for their lives.
What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
In coaching, a board certified coach helps a person to achieve a specific aim or goal that is decided by a person. On the other hand, a therapist that helps a person to deal with the problems and difficulties that a person faces in his or her life on a very deep internal level.
What can a potential client expect from a coaching relationship?
A very skilled friend who’s only purpose is to keep you focused and motivated on achieving specific life goals
Define specific goals the client wants to achieve
Helps create a road-map for achieving the set goals
Holds the client accountable and keeps them motivated
Helps the client navigate any issues that arise
What can a potential client expect from a therapeutic relationship?
The therapist is licensed and highly trained in dealing with mental health topics such as depression, anxiety, trauma, infidelity, and much more.
Identifies areas in a person’s life that is causing them to be stuck from progressing and living a healthy life.
Therapist help clients with emotional regulation, improved communication skills, strengthen self-esteem and promote behavior change.
How is sex therapy/coaching different from regular therapy or coaching?
A sex therapist is a licensed mental health professional, who has extensive education and training in sex therapy in addition to mental health. Sex Therapy is consist of the following topics, and much more…
What kind of issues can sex therapy treat?
We address mental health and/or emotional concerns affecting a person’s sexual function, lack of sexual desire, mismatched libidos, intimacy after infidelity, intimacy after having children, painful intercourse, erectile disappointments, anything that has anything to do with how to have healthy sex.
Do sex therapists and coaching professionals have different training than regular therapists?
Yes, all licensed therapist has the basic human sexuality course in our college training but sex therapist, especially CST, have advanced training in sexual related issues. Our Coaches also have an extensive understanding and education in many of the similar topics, and are partnered with one of our sex therapists to ensure a full scope of understanding and treatment plans for our client. Our professionals also acquire continuing education credits to stay certified and licensed.
Do sex coaches have different training than traditional life coaches?
Absolutely, our coaches are board certified and require an extensive training program that implements many of the same standards and education as sex therapists. Our coach program requires a minimum of 120 hours of education, along with practicals, and continuing education credits that are required yearly.
Additionally, our coaches are required to be board certified through AASECT(American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors & Therapists , SHA(Sexual Health Alliance), EYI (Evolve Your Intimacy), or be a licensed mental health professional with certifications in sexuality, sex therapy, or alternative relationships.
What makes our approach to therapy or coaching different than many other sex therapists?
It would have to be our reality-based approach. We take a no-nonsense point of view and call people out on their things when we see it. The individual or partner (s) isn’t my client, the relationship(s) or particular issue is our client and we are going to do what is best for the relationship or issue as a whole instead of what an individual or partner(s) expects us to do. We do help the individual or partner(s) of course, but they came to us to fix the relationship(s) or issue and either we are going to rebuild it like they have always wanted it or come up with a peaceful resolve for the relationship(s) or issue and move on.
- Libido - Sexual Prowess - Monogamy & Non-Monogamy
- Intimacy - Communication - Emotional Sex Related Concerns
- Asexuality - Sexual Needs & Wants - All Polyamory Dynamics & Styles
- Sexual Desire - Alternative Relationships - Physical and Emotional Attraction
- Sex Education - Nonfunctional Sex Organs - Sexuality, Gender(s), & Non-Binary
- Sexual Trauma - Physical Sex Related Concerns